Once a girl is hooked by traffickers, a contract is drawn up, under which she agrees to a sum of money running into thousands of dollars. These contracts are drawn up by phony lawyers.At the top of the game is a madam , a retired old expired sex worker, whom the traffickers work for.
The girls are normally taken to a shrine where rituals are done and an oath taken.Something deeply personal are then taken from the girls like hair from head, public hairs, used under wears; clipped nails, used sanitory towels etc. These are to keep the girls in fear as every one here is deeply superstitious.Just to control the girls from a distance.
In some cases, these young women were forced to sleep in coffins, drink chicken blood all with threat of death if they disobey their madams who could have as many as 20 girls working for each. visit DHL or FEDEX offices in town,mothers of these girls come with items like native black soaps, lip sticks,eye liners,wigs etc these are send to their daughters in Italy after passing through some rituals to attract customers, or get old rich men to marry them or give them protection from police, who are always on look out for them for deportation. One deported girl gave a picture of how they often run into sewage tunnels and run for miles
underground to escape from police.
Statistically speaking there are more than 20,000 Nigerian girls on the street of Italy.There is FIXER often a woman that move around remote villages recruiting poor young girls with promises of educations and jobs abroad,only to be trafficked into sex trade.
Rosana Paradiso, from Italian city of TURIN work with an NGO called TURNAROUND they meet these girls and educate them on the dangers of been out in the street as sex slaves.They are encouraged to mention their traffickers which they rarely do out of fear of the voodoo oath taken by them. safe houses for deported women in Nigeria was also set up them.Trades are taught to teach them how to stand on their feets and fend for themselves.
The work of the NGO and CATHOLIC Church here is paying off as the crazy to go abroad is dying off. Young girls are seen all over the markets and streets trading,the women in the state are really hard working. most have build houses from their trading and send their kids to good schools. they have learnt that there is d
ignity in labour.
Monday, 14 July 2014
Thursday, 10 July 2014
ITALIAN AND NIGERIAN SEX TRADE
What is Nigeria greatest export to Italy it is nothing but raw sex. Remove sex trade from a state in southern Nigeria, the economy will certainly collapsed. most families here have daughters plying the trade abroad. Please note that these girls are not from les miserables families but girls from middle class homes.
Most houses and shopping plazas for rent outside the GRA where the monyed class live belong to these girls carrying out sex trade. The most shocking thing is that girls of all ages are involved, parents often begged traffickers to go with their teenage daughters, even married women often abandon their homes for sex trade in Italy. Husbands also encourages their wives to go in search of EURO:
Trouncing this trade here is not possible as almost every one benefits from it, that is why the cold wind of ostracism has not been slammed on the girls who are often celebrated when they swaggered into town. Young eligible boys fall over themselves to date these girls and even marry them. A class mate of mine married one and he is living in opulent wealth, check out his well furnished law chamber, stock with books, his intimidating Italian suits and shoes and state of the arts SUVs, while she still remain in Italy plying her trade. He is like a toy boy in a doll house.
Another friend of mine; has a driver who came home one day from work, only to discover that the wife,had dumped him and kids and absconded with active conivance of her mother who had always seen him as too poor for her daughter to ltaly, two months later she was deported back home. She just couldnt return to her husband and kids who refused to take her back. Still some men sale family homes to send their wives to Italy. one such man even pretended with his wife to a driver to his wife and her new ltalian husband when she came home to see an on going housing project with the very old Italian professor whom she meet through sex trade and married over there. The home boy husband pretended to be a driver, picking both from hotel suit every morning until they return back to Italy, so that the wife will suck the love dovey professor dry before returning back to him.
Most houses and shopping plazas for rent outside the GRA where the monyed class live belong to these girls carrying out sex trade. The most shocking thing is that girls of all ages are involved, parents often begged traffickers to go with their teenage daughters, even married women often abandon their homes for sex trade in Italy. Husbands also encourages their wives to go in search of EURO:
Trouncing this trade here is not possible as almost every one benefits from it, that is why the cold wind of ostracism has not been slammed on the girls who are often celebrated when they swaggered into town. Young eligible boys fall over themselves to date these girls and even marry them. A class mate of mine married one and he is living in opulent wealth, check out his well furnished law chamber, stock with books, his intimidating Italian suits and shoes and state of the arts SUVs, while she still remain in Italy plying her trade. He is like a toy boy in a doll house.
Another friend of mine; has a driver who came home one day from work, only to discover that the wife,had dumped him and kids and absconded with active conivance of her mother who had always seen him as too poor for her daughter to ltaly, two months later she was deported back home. She just couldnt return to her husband and kids who refused to take her back. Still some men sale family homes to send their wives to Italy. one such man even pretended with his wife to a driver to his wife and her new ltalian husband when she came home to see an on going housing project with the very old Italian professor whom she meet through sex trade and married over there. The home boy husband pretended to be a driver, picking both from hotel suit every morning until they return back to Italy, so that the wife will suck the love dovey professor dry before returning back to him.
Much of the pervasive arguement on dignity of women hood put across by feminist groups, NGOS Catholic church and National Agency for prevention of trafficking in persons does not wash in that state at all. The traffickers, trafficked and JUJU HIGH PRIESTS are in unholy WEDLOCK so the trade is not ending any time soon.Even the reticence from husbands and parents are not rooted in any rock.....ribbed puritanism. This surely is puzzling judging from level of acceptance of this.to be continue on the role of VOODOO IN SEX TRAFFICKING.
Saturday, 5 July 2014
Monday, 16 June 2014
DEPRESSION AND ENDING A RELATIONSHIP
A few years after you told your husband that you will rather spend eternity been a NUN,than been his wife for another second, why are you so depressed and shocked to hear that he has remarried after the divorce . The intense feelings that arise when a former mate remarries takes many women and men by surprise said ABIGAIL TRAFFORD author of CRAZY TIME a book about divorce. After given the boot to the jerk and a miserable excuse of a man to hell, why are you so miserable when the jerk moved on with another mate.
Sure the man will always be a jerk and you cannot wait to drop him and did, yet learning that he is sharing his life with another person can hurt though outwardly you pretend as if you dont care. But inwardly you feel pain and anger that he had moved on while you have not. Typically you start feeling jealous depressed and insecure. you start comparing yourself with the new mate, could he be better looking, sexer, smarter. the woman would be like HOW DARE HE MOVED ON AND BECOME HAPPY AFTER MEESING UP YOUR OWN LIFE spending money on her when you are barely surviving.
Though this could be a very painful time, but it will be therapeutic to deal with residual anger, ambivalence and sadness so that the hurt will not fester into depression. whatever is the circumstance, ending a long time relationship entails a lot of mourning psychologically which is normal and necessary. The emotional tie between couples remain strong that some still sleep togather after divorce even though they are not planning a reconciliation which is sordid indeed.
Often time people become obsessed with the new partner in their EX mate life, they would hate them, will want to know every thing about them and could even start STALKING them which is very demeaning, the FATAL ATTRACTION SYNDROME could start. if you didnt vacillate before leaving, why do you now want him when he is out of reach.you need to do the banishing act on him. Even if you had kids togather so could meet or talk from time to time, badgering him about his love life makes you cheap. This should not translate into hostility but effusiveness. Been pessimistic and blue about the future does not help at all.
You can solve the deep emotional problems by dropping unrealistic expectations, boost confidence in yourself by been assertive and cutting the emotional umbilical cord. Even the most mundane chores can redirect the mind off depressive things, even watching of seasonal films. Throw yourself into any benefiting self improvement schemes, it is never late to get any skill, you may be sowing a seed for your future.
Always wear a radiating incandescent smile, but the not the notice me,am looking for a man at all cost kind of smile to attract men, please some men are not worth attracting, at this point in life you dont want to be in an abusive relationship. Ditch all melancholy feelings, and move on as been pessimistic and blue about the future does not help at all.
This article was triggered by a article in cosmopolitan about a former chief Judge of NEW YORK CITY: SOL WACHTLER and a wealthy beautiful socialite JOY SILVERMAN who bought about his down fall the thrice married Joy silverman wielded great sexual power over men. She was still married to her last husband when she started feverish chase of Sol WACHTLER and she was a step cousin to his wife JOAN: Sol had never had an affair before in his 25 years of marriage to JOAN ;he fell under her spell. The affairs was most intense that he later contemplated leaving his wife for Joy.
He couldnt get enough of her and introduced her to the presidential re,election bid,she spent money and time and was nominated for an ambassodor but the senate turned it down but she came into limelight as a politician using SOL:HE later developed a guilty feelings about the hid and seek relationship,moved out of his home for Joy who at this point accused her husband of having an affair and dumped him,Sol later moved back to his wife. He even faked brain cancer
so that she will leave him alone but she couldnt.he took a bold step and left her.
Things came to a head when he learnt she has another boyfriend,he wanted her back and developed a kind of fatal attraction for her that he became sick. He could not eat, would not sleep, could not concentrate in the office. He needed a mental health Doctor but saw one who placed him on transquilizers that made his conditions bad. He started stalking her,threatend to kidnapp the teenage daughter while pretending to be another person.SOL will make drop calls to her many times a day,would call the new boyfriend to see if they would break up so that she will come back to him.JOY then contacted the FBI when ask SOL asked for 20.000 dollars or he will send dirty pictures of her to her daughter.
FBI could not understand how a whole chief law maker of New York state could go to that level for a woman.She was advised to play along with him. He was arrested when he came to collect the money. The thing he said was"OH I WOULD HAVE BEEN GOVERNOR"he was fine some dollars and sentenced to 15 months jail term. So one must move on at the end of a relationship without looking back. There is always light at the end of any tunnel been cheap make things pathetic.Move on without looking back.A jerk will always be a jerk so nothing will change in his life just as he moved on, you too should get a life and moved on. NO ONE HAS EVER SAID THAT LIFE MUST BE SWEET ALL THE TIME.
Sure the man will always be a jerk and you cannot wait to drop him and did, yet learning that he is sharing his life with another person can hurt though outwardly you pretend as if you dont care. But inwardly you feel pain and anger that he had moved on while you have not. Typically you start feeling jealous depressed and insecure. you start comparing yourself with the new mate, could he be better looking, sexer, smarter. the woman would be like HOW DARE HE MOVED ON AND BECOME HAPPY AFTER MEESING UP YOUR OWN LIFE spending money on her when you are barely surviving.
Though this could be a very painful time, but it will be therapeutic to deal with residual anger, ambivalence and sadness so that the hurt will not fester into depression. whatever is the circumstance, ending a long time relationship entails a lot of mourning psychologically which is normal and necessary. The emotional tie between couples remain strong that some still sleep togather after divorce even though they are not planning a reconciliation which is sordid indeed.
Often time people become obsessed with the new partner in their EX mate life, they would hate them, will want to know every thing about them and could even start STALKING them which is very demeaning, the FATAL ATTRACTION SYNDROME could start. if you didnt vacillate before leaving, why do you now want him when he is out of reach.you need to do the banishing act on him. Even if you had kids togather so could meet or talk from time to time, badgering him about his love life makes you cheap. This should not translate into hostility but effusiveness. Been pessimistic and blue about the future does not help at all.
You can solve the deep emotional problems by dropping unrealistic expectations, boost confidence in yourself by been assertive and cutting the emotional umbilical cord. Even the most mundane chores can redirect the mind off depressive things, even watching of seasonal films. Throw yourself into any benefiting self improvement schemes, it is never late to get any skill, you may be sowing a seed for your future.
Always wear a radiating incandescent smile, but the not the notice me,am looking for a man at all cost kind of smile to attract men, please some men are not worth attracting, at this point in life you dont want to be in an abusive relationship. Ditch all melancholy feelings, and move on as been pessimistic and blue about the future does not help at all.
This article was triggered by a article in cosmopolitan about a former chief Judge of NEW YORK CITY: SOL WACHTLER and a wealthy beautiful socialite JOY SILVERMAN who bought about his down fall the thrice married Joy silverman wielded great sexual power over men. She was still married to her last husband when she started feverish chase of Sol WACHTLER and she was a step cousin to his wife JOAN: Sol had never had an affair before in his 25 years of marriage to JOAN ;he fell under her spell. The affairs was most intense that he later contemplated leaving his wife for Joy.
He couldnt get enough of her and introduced her to the presidential re,election bid,she spent money and time and was nominated for an ambassodor but the senate turned it down but she came into limelight as a politician using SOL:HE later developed a guilty feelings about the hid and seek relationship,moved out of his home for Joy who at this point accused her husband of having an affair and dumped him,Sol later moved back to his wife. He even faked brain cancer
so that she will leave him alone but she couldnt.he took a bold step and left her.
Things came to a head when he learnt she has another boyfriend,he wanted her back and developed a kind of fatal attraction for her that he became sick. He could not eat, would not sleep, could not concentrate in the office. He needed a mental health Doctor but saw one who placed him on transquilizers that made his conditions bad. He started stalking her,threatend to kidnapp the teenage daughter while pretending to be another person.SOL will make drop calls to her many times a day,would call the new boyfriend to see if they would break up so that she will come back to him.JOY then contacted the FBI when ask SOL asked for 20.000 dollars or he will send dirty pictures of her to her daughter.
FBI could not understand how a whole chief law maker of New York state could go to that level for a woman.She was advised to play along with him. He was arrested when he came to collect the money. The thing he said was"OH I WOULD HAVE BEEN GOVERNOR"he was fine some dollars and sentenced to 15 months jail term. So one must move on at the end of a relationship without looking back. There is always light at the end of any tunnel been cheap make things pathetic.Move on without looking back.A jerk will always be a jerk so nothing will change in his life just as he moved on, you too should get a life and moved on. NO ONE HAS EVER SAID THAT LIFE MUST BE SWEET ALL THE TIME.
Tuesday, 20 May 2014
RIGHT TO CHOOSE A FUNDAMENTAL HUMAN RIGHT :
I was trembling, clenching my teeth with a mechanical physical effort that often accompanies a mental one to read of a sudaness girl aged 27 years, sentenced to death for turning a christian. She will in addition receive an additional 100 stroke of cane before been put to death. Her death sentence would take effect 2 years after having her baby as she is heavily pregnant, in addition she has an 18 months son MARTIN who is presently in jail with her. Her explanation that she was brought up a christian, as her mother is a christian and that her moslem father abandoned them at birth, fell on deaf ears. I shuddered, at the injustice of this inhuman treatment, this is horrible and revolting. IS THIS MEDIAEVAL TIME ?
Let me make it clear that i have nothing against ISLAMIC FAITH. I was once married to a moslem. He cared less whether you are a christian or pagan or even a WITCH as long as you are doing it well. Once you are a good person, it was ok by him. The issue of conversion to Islam was never part of any talk. He always encourage me to attend church services to be a better person.
The location of a person´s place of birth such as country and parents often determines one´s faith, been born in India could make a person a HINDU; etc am sure if I was born a Moslem, I would had held on to my faith with pride, just as I knew I would die a Christian, but times without number I had wondered what would been like to be born a Moslem and a woman with it oddest complexities. I often pity these women dressed in BUKA: In honesty; i had graduated from the university when I saw for the first time in IBADAN south west Nigeria some women shrudded in total black, it was a sight to behold. I was shocked, dumb, numbed and fascinated like a child seeing a snake for the first time. The women were masked from head to toe in total black outfits. They wore black socks on their feet,black flowing gowns, black veil just a bit openings for the eyes and then black socks covering the hands. Summer, winter, raining season,dry season etc like a person in prison outside the walls of the prison yard´.
From the ages of 11 or 12, they are already married often to Men old enough to be their grand father as 2nd 3rd 4th wives, check out the UNITED NATION WEB SITE to read the TOO YOUNG TO MARRY ARTICLE it documented thousands of young teenage girls who could not get education but just married off to old men some without teeth old old WIZARDS: this girls often start having children even from teenage , they will continue having children till menopause what can one say about the world population, at this rate we are all in trouble.
That the incident VVF is very common in moslem world is palpably evident. When young girls are forced to have babies before their pelvic bones are full developed, during child births, many things could go wrong with lots of tears they remain damaged for life. These girls are often abandoned by the husbands after been damaged for life for fresh new wives. The gruesomeness of this life of abandonment at just teenage years is not fair at all. most of these girls often give birth at home without ever attending antinatal care all even wives of educated men. may be they dont want male Doctors to come in contact with their wives. Most of these women are lock up at homes without ever come out without male companions. They dont shop at all the husbands provides every thing for the the family, even up to her under wears, as wives are under purda BA SHIGA in local hausa language, meaning no entrance for any one. these ladies only visit their families at night and must be well hooded.
A well educated Northern Man shocked us when he informed us in the office that his wife normally have their children at home, without assistance from any one, he was actually very proud of this.To him this is very normal as his own mother had 10 kids without every visiting the hospital: One can see why infant and maternal mortality will ever remain high in most developing countries.
One has read stories of health workers killed in the process of immunizing moslem kids. The religious leaders openly preached against this as they see it as a western and Christian means of controlling the population of moslems in the world. Most of their kids are not immunized against childhood killer diseases like POLIO: lot of these kids become cripples and are then shipped off to the Southern part of the country as beggers.Right now there are thousand of northern moslem beggers all over the south. It is fascinating seeing the crippled female beggers begging with their numerous children, always with new born mouth to feed always hanging to their breast. What happens to these kids without any form of formal education at all. Very simple, the circle of poverty, illiteracy and vibrant army for the fundamentalism islamist are always in full supply. SO WHO WILL BELL THE CAT:
In SOME ARAB COUNTRIES women are not permitted to drive at all. A lot of SAUD ARABIA women have been fogged for trying to disobey this law. The stark incongruity of the whole breach of the fundamental rights of women in these countries is appalling. A CARTE BLANCHE GIVEN TO MEN BY MEN TO TREAT WOMEN AS CARTEL: so women dont have enough sense to even drive a car in these days and age, they cant work, only bear children and work as sex slaves for their husbands.
The only weapon in the coffers of these women is nothing more than a right to education and self actualization and nothing more. If a girl child can attend primary school, high school, then she would be old and knowledgeable enough to take decisions that will mold her life.they will be better mothers and wives. Sentencing a human being to death for changing her religion is more than playing GOD. No one had even gone to heaven and come back to educate us with empirical evidence on the right way and part to GOD. We are all fumbling in the dark.
KARL MARX is totally right, RELIGION IS THE OPIUM OF THE PEOPLE; so also it is in CHRISTIANITY WHERE STEALING IN THE NAME OF THE LORD IS THE ORDER OF THE DAY, this is a story for another day
Let me make it clear that i have nothing against ISLAMIC FAITH. I was once married to a moslem. He cared less whether you are a christian or pagan or even a WITCH as long as you are doing it well. Once you are a good person, it was ok by him. The issue of conversion to Islam was never part of any talk. He always encourage me to attend church services to be a better person.
The location of a person´s place of birth such as country and parents often determines one´s faith, been born in India could make a person a HINDU; etc am sure if I was born a Moslem, I would had held on to my faith with pride, just as I knew I would die a Christian, but times without number I had wondered what would been like to be born a Moslem and a woman with it oddest complexities. I often pity these women dressed in BUKA: In honesty; i had graduated from the university when I saw for the first time in IBADAN south west Nigeria some women shrudded in total black, it was a sight to behold. I was shocked, dumb, numbed and fascinated like a child seeing a snake for the first time. The women were masked from head to toe in total black outfits. They wore black socks on their feet,black flowing gowns, black veil just a bit openings for the eyes and then black socks covering the hands. Summer, winter, raining season,dry season etc like a person in prison outside the walls of the prison yard´.
From the ages of 11 or 12, they are already married often to Men old enough to be their grand father as 2nd 3rd 4th wives, check out the UNITED NATION WEB SITE to read the TOO YOUNG TO MARRY ARTICLE it documented thousands of young teenage girls who could not get education but just married off to old men some without teeth old old WIZARDS: this girls often start having children even from teenage , they will continue having children till menopause what can one say about the world population, at this rate we are all in trouble.
That the incident VVF is very common in moslem world is palpably evident. When young girls are forced to have babies before their pelvic bones are full developed, during child births, many things could go wrong with lots of tears they remain damaged for life. These girls are often abandoned by the husbands after been damaged for life for fresh new wives. The gruesomeness of this life of abandonment at just teenage years is not fair at all. most of these girls often give birth at home without ever attending antinatal care all even wives of educated men. may be they dont want male Doctors to come in contact with their wives. Most of these women are lock up at homes without ever come out without male companions. They dont shop at all the husbands provides every thing for the the family, even up to her under wears, as wives are under purda BA SHIGA in local hausa language, meaning no entrance for any one. these ladies only visit their families at night and must be well hooded.
A well educated Northern Man shocked us when he informed us in the office that his wife normally have their children at home, without assistance from any one, he was actually very proud of this.To him this is very normal as his own mother had 10 kids without every visiting the hospital: One can see why infant and maternal mortality will ever remain high in most developing countries.
One has read stories of health workers killed in the process of immunizing moslem kids. The religious leaders openly preached against this as they see it as a western and Christian means of controlling the population of moslems in the world. Most of their kids are not immunized against childhood killer diseases like POLIO: lot of these kids become cripples and are then shipped off to the Southern part of the country as beggers.Right now there are thousand of northern moslem beggers all over the south. It is fascinating seeing the crippled female beggers begging with their numerous children, always with new born mouth to feed always hanging to their breast. What happens to these kids without any form of formal education at all. Very simple, the circle of poverty, illiteracy and vibrant army for the fundamentalism islamist are always in full supply. SO WHO WILL BELL THE CAT:
In SOME ARAB COUNTRIES women are not permitted to drive at all. A lot of SAUD ARABIA women have been fogged for trying to disobey this law. The stark incongruity of the whole breach of the fundamental rights of women in these countries is appalling. A CARTE BLANCHE GIVEN TO MEN BY MEN TO TREAT WOMEN AS CARTEL: so women dont have enough sense to even drive a car in these days and age, they cant work, only bear children and work as sex slaves for their husbands.
The only weapon in the coffers of these women is nothing more than a right to education and self actualization and nothing more. If a girl child can attend primary school, high school, then she would be old and knowledgeable enough to take decisions that will mold her life.they will be better mothers and wives. Sentencing a human being to death for changing her religion is more than playing GOD. No one had even gone to heaven and come back to educate us with empirical evidence on the right way and part to GOD. We are all fumbling in the dark.
KARL MARX is totally right, RELIGION IS THE OPIUM OF THE PEOPLE; so also it is in CHRISTIANITY WHERE STEALING IN THE NAME OF THE LORD IS THE ORDER OF THE DAY, this is a story for another day
Wednesday, 7 May 2014
THINGS THAT HAPPEN TO YOUNG GIRLS
When I read the story about the young girls forcefully taken away by BOKO HARAM a fanatical islamic group waging war in Nigeria ,I was cold and shocked just like every parent imagining what these young girls would go through. It was also reported that some girls had earlier been taken from the villages of KONDUGHA an BUNI YADI but just few girls so world attention was not attracted, just yesterday we read that 8 more girls had been taken away again.This horrible incident just as British foreign secretary WILLIAM HAGUE said, is a stark reminder of the threat of sexual violence faced by women and girls in conflict zones.
This is not the very first time these are happening, the INFAMOUS KONY took away 150 girls from a Catholic girls secondary school in DRC the NUNS in charge of the school went deep into the forest in search of the girls. They came face to face with the TERRIBLE FEARSOME WARLORD, they started pleading for the release of the abducted girls, his stone heart was softened a little bit to the extend of releasing 120 of the girls. The other 30 girls had not been seen till date 10 years after.
Here in Nigeria a lot of young girls were forcefully taken away by fighting solders during the Nigerian civil war, most of them were never seen till date more than 40 years after. I couldnt stop imaging what these girls are passing through, been dragged from forest to desert etc exposed to wild animals and the beast they are forced to live with as sex slaves The girls will be used as sheld in case the military attack the the adoptors. There was a report that some of the girls has been taken outside the country, to be seconded to other terrorists from other countries as concubines.
On a general note, parents need to pay attention to young girls as they go through the rite of passage to woman hood, events at these ages often have a profound effect for life. Most middle aged men often go after these girls and then ruin them for life. Often time parents are too busy chasing after wealth or means of survival to pay attention to their teenage daughters. Think of a mother living at EGBEDA going to work at the ISLAND, she leaves home by 5am to beat the horrible traffic, then get home between 10 and 11 pm. How does she pay attention to the kids, how is she bringing them up, the children are just bringing themselves up.
One day i went to wash pictures taken during my daughter´´s birthday party, people clustered round the counter watching some pictures and were screaming in shock. so i decided to take a peep, what i saw was shocking. Two girls aged like 13 and 15 were seated down with their legs wide, wide open, stark naked like jail birds with COCOA COLA bottles with the liquid contents still inside pushed right into their VAGINAS TILL ONLY THE CORK covers of the bottles were visible. The younger girl was bleeding, a pool of blood had gathered by her legs, it was a disgusting gory sight. The boy working there informed us that two middled aged white men brought the pictures for washing. One elderly man said to me ´´SEE WHAT OLD WHITE MEN HAD TURNED OUR GIRLS INTO because of poverty´´
We all knew that poverty is a big problem in most countries of the world ,but if parents teach their children ,well on how to treasure their woman hood,as these girls are mothers of the future, teaching them contentment and dignity in face of poverty is very important, and how to be very guarded at all times is very important. we read that when the BOKO HARAM came to take these girls away they claimed to be Nigeria solders asked to take them to safety as they wore military uniforms, they girls willingly entered the trucks, along the way, some of the girls got suspicious and jumped down from the trucks and escaped. these are the very smart ones.
Often things outside your control would happen to one, this a fact of life no one could control. When i graduated from high school at the age of 17 year while waiting for University admission, i spent the whole of my time at the library reading as i was very lone when my friend left for United States to continue her education, I was very happy to see a library worker vacancy placed at the local public library. I went for the interview,on that day there were lot of other young people gathered for same interview, they gathered us in a place to give out numbers for the interview, the crowd could not be controlled again in the surge to get number.I suddenly noticed that a hand had been pushed beyond my pants, right into my private part. I started struggling with the hand and he refused to give up and reaped my under wear out, I then started fighting my way out of the crowd,I WAS BRUISED AND BLEEDING. As soon as i fought my way out of the crowd, i just went home, battered and shaken, till today i hate crowd and avoid crowded places.
YOUNG GIRLS must be careful, there are a lot of lewdness out there, getting involved in obscenity is denigrating. from the things that happen to young girls and the things they intentionally allowed to happen to them, by the time most of them are just 20 years old, they are battle scarred as old crones.
This is not the very first time these are happening, the INFAMOUS KONY took away 150 girls from a Catholic girls secondary school in DRC the NUNS in charge of the school went deep into the forest in search of the girls. They came face to face with the TERRIBLE FEARSOME WARLORD, they started pleading for the release of the abducted girls, his stone heart was softened a little bit to the extend of releasing 120 of the girls. The other 30 girls had not been seen till date 10 years after.
Here in Nigeria a lot of young girls were forcefully taken away by fighting solders during the Nigerian civil war, most of them were never seen till date more than 40 years after. I couldnt stop imaging what these girls are passing through, been dragged from forest to desert etc exposed to wild animals and the beast they are forced to live with as sex slaves The girls will be used as sheld in case the military attack the the adoptors. There was a report that some of the girls has been taken outside the country, to be seconded to other terrorists from other countries as concubines.
On a general note, parents need to pay attention to young girls as they go through the rite of passage to woman hood, events at these ages often have a profound effect for life. Most middle aged men often go after these girls and then ruin them for life. Often time parents are too busy chasing after wealth or means of survival to pay attention to their teenage daughters. Think of a mother living at EGBEDA going to work at the ISLAND, she leaves home by 5am to beat the horrible traffic, then get home between 10 and 11 pm. How does she pay attention to the kids, how is she bringing them up, the children are just bringing themselves up.
One day i went to wash pictures taken during my daughter´´s birthday party, people clustered round the counter watching some pictures and were screaming in shock. so i decided to take a peep, what i saw was shocking. Two girls aged like 13 and 15 were seated down with their legs wide, wide open, stark naked like jail birds with COCOA COLA bottles with the liquid contents still inside pushed right into their VAGINAS TILL ONLY THE CORK covers of the bottles were visible. The younger girl was bleeding, a pool of blood had gathered by her legs, it was a disgusting gory sight. The boy working there informed us that two middled aged white men brought the pictures for washing. One elderly man said to me ´´SEE WHAT OLD WHITE MEN HAD TURNED OUR GIRLS INTO because of poverty´´
We all knew that poverty is a big problem in most countries of the world ,but if parents teach their children ,well on how to treasure their woman hood,as these girls are mothers of the future, teaching them contentment and dignity in face of poverty is very important, and how to be very guarded at all times is very important. we read that when the BOKO HARAM came to take these girls away they claimed to be Nigeria solders asked to take them to safety as they wore military uniforms, they girls willingly entered the trucks, along the way, some of the girls got suspicious and jumped down from the trucks and escaped. these are the very smart ones.
Often things outside your control would happen to one, this a fact of life no one could control. When i graduated from high school at the age of 17 year while waiting for University admission, i spent the whole of my time at the library reading as i was very lone when my friend left for United States to continue her education, I was very happy to see a library worker vacancy placed at the local public library. I went for the interview,on that day there were lot of other young people gathered for same interview, they gathered us in a place to give out numbers for the interview, the crowd could not be controlled again in the surge to get number.I suddenly noticed that a hand had been pushed beyond my pants, right into my private part. I started struggling with the hand and he refused to give up and reaped my under wear out, I then started fighting my way out of the crowd,I WAS BRUISED AND BLEEDING. As soon as i fought my way out of the crowd, i just went home, battered and shaken, till today i hate crowd and avoid crowded places.
YOUNG GIRLS must be careful, there are a lot of lewdness out there, getting involved in obscenity is denigrating. from the things that happen to young girls and the things they intentionally allowed to happen to them, by the time most of them are just 20 years old, they are battle scarred as old crones.
Tuesday, 15 April 2014
NJIDEKA;;;;;;;A TERMINATED . JOURNEY THROUGH LIFE
We came from two nearby villages, she from ENUGWU::UKWU while am from ENUGWU ;;;AGIDI: She was like a kid sister to me. We all lived in the same apartment building in ENUGU owned by my grandfather. Her senior sister was my friend and was practical sharing my room with me, as our apartment was much bigger than theirs.
I grew up with my mother always ill and away in search of healing, often my sister and I are always hungry as biG brothers were always out playing football.My friend the senior sister would sneak into their apartment to eat food prepared by their mom, while Njide would sneak food out for me. After high school, I left for JOS to attend university education. My MOM later passed on, I left Enugu for good and then lost touch with the family.
Years later, she traced me to ABUJA where I had settled and started a family. She was posted to serve her NYSC in BAUCHI state and had finished from the orientation camp. She was certainly unhappy with the choice of Bauchi and wanted a different place for primary assignment, so came looking for me. I was more than happy to see her. I promised to help her serve in Abuja. She happily settled down in my house. We had a lot of time to chat about the old life and her life after I left Enugu. Her life was one of struggle after her father,s business went under. Attending University was no longer possible ;but help came her way.
The GENERAL OVERSEER of their church, who started dating her senior sister offered to send both of them to the university. While her two brothers dropped out of school after high school ,they had to go and learn trading. Things were still a struggle as they were mostly dependent on their mother,s petty trading to survive. Education wise, things were ok until the CHURCH FOUNDER with children her own age, started LUSTING after her too. When she refused to carve in and start dating him too, the man of GOD washed his hands off her education, Luckily she was half way through, things became real tough, but she was determined not to give up on her dreams of been a university graduate. [she read political science] The family really struggled to help her actualize her dreams. She told me about her shoe nicknamed ²ECHETEKA meaning tomorrow is too far by her school mates reason been that she wears the shoe day in day out, month in month out in school .
Been an attractive girl, she had her fair share of toasters in school, she took her time until in 300 level when she fell in love with a posh boy from ABBA another nearby village from her,s who was already in his final year in same school. Things were a little better for her when he graduated and started working as he helped out. She had never been comfortable about their two dialectical opposite background as he is the son of a well known rich transporter. The boy born into a VENERABLE and VENERATED family assured her, that he would certainly marry her. She then graduated from the university.
The way and manner she was introduced to his marriage to another girl, who came from the right similar background was mortifying. The boy,s mother had always been in the know about their relationship but had always been indifferent to her, which always cause a dampness to fall upon her spirit but the lover boy always irrevocably pledged his never ending love , assuring her that his family would never dictate to him who to marry, and would deal with his condescending mother with her spasmodic extravagance of a person used to large fortune when they are ready for their marriage after her NYSC: She visited the family house as usual, but saw that an important activity was planned for the house as there were canopies been set up, women running around cooking while the LADY OF THE MANOR the boy friend,s mother was fully in charge running the affair.She was just told that there would be a party the next day. She wondered as Chike never informed her of any party.When she asked of him as she didnt sight him at all, nobody was forth coming with an answer to his movement and his cell phone out of reach. She went home and was later informed about the next day traditional wedding between Chike and a girl from the right well connected family. who just returned from UK after university education by a friend of Chike over the cell phone. She never saw nor had any communication from him again.
After the sharing of this story, I was more than determined to help her. Am sure I would had bombed that traditional wedding; if I were in her shoes.Luckily I had a contact at NYSC office so her reposting to Abuja was just one hand for me, we went further to press buttons to post her to NNPC with the intention of further pushing them to retain her,after the service year.
She was full of joy and decided to travel down to Enugu to inform her parents, as she had two weeks off before starting work. As I intended traveling to Benin, so she joined myself and my son down to Benin, where we spent three wonderful nights in the poshest hotel in town. I thank GOD I gave her good, wonderful time before dropping her at her parent house still my grandfather,s house and traveled back to Abuja.
She was to come back to Abuja in a weeks time to party with us on my son,s forth coming birthday. She promised to come back two days before the party to help out. The day came and passed and she didnt show up.Then the dread call came from a friend of mine living at Enugu that NJIDE had passed on.She didnt have any information on what happened. I was filled with sudden exasperation of the elaborate futility of life. I traveled down to Enugu at once, I was shocked that she was already buried same day she passed on. The sorrow within the family was heart renting but I was really taken back at the suddenness of the intenment.
The story of what really took her life was related to me by the photographer who had a studio in from of their family home. According to him, Nijide had informed all of them about her intending trip back to Abuja the next day. She was up very early in the morning, washed her cloths for the trip next morning, cooked breakfast for the family and then left with her senior sister my old friend. Soon after, the sister rushed back alone without her and their mother joined her in rushing out again. By now people around knew that something was up. Soon after the mother rushed back and started screaming that NJIDE had passed on. People who saw her not quite an hour, leaving with her sister was bewildered beyond reasons.
Njide was pregnant and went with her sister to a nearby clinic for an abortion. The medical director of the clinic was not on seat. The NYSC doctor they meet convinced them he would do the abortion very well and at half the cost of what the hospital owner would had collected from them so they accepted. Soon after he started the evacuation, she started bleeding, became unconscious and then passed on. The father was called from the market where he runs a shop. He directed that she must be buried at once, so an ambulance was brought and a casket bought for her last journey to ENUGWU;;UKWU , that same day, without any funfair without any church service, without fair well from her friends, just thrown into the soil like an out caste. Like one who has committed an abormination . She was at the face of a steep precipice alone, the preposterousness of the matter without the second party, who have started his matrimonal life with ecstatic animation else where without a second thought to all his promises to her.
The fresh body, bleed all over the casket ,bleed all over the white shroud, bleed all over the ambulance.,The photographer and other people, that went with her on this last journey testified. SHE WAS COMMITTED TO MOTHER EARTH around 10 pm that night when they finished digging the grave, without prayers as if they family was furious with her for the shame and scandal brought upon the family. The rich boy from the correct background had planted his seed of destruction on the girl from the wrong background, before dumping her to marry the right girl, from another correct background.Her story was one of most poor girls who had been deceived by boys from so called upper crust families,these boys often turn their scrupulous eyes on these poor girls while in school, only to dump them later. These girls whose ROMANTICISM are always inconsistent with reality, are always left with burnt fingers and depressed for life. They need to let go of their INNOCENT ADROITNESS and face fact that inequality can never be wished away in the real world, unlike the movies.
I grew up with my mother always ill and away in search of healing, often my sister and I are always hungry as biG brothers were always out playing football.My friend the senior sister would sneak into their apartment to eat food prepared by their mom, while Njide would sneak food out for me. After high school, I left for JOS to attend university education. My MOM later passed on, I left Enugu for good and then lost touch with the family.
Years later, she traced me to ABUJA where I had settled and started a family. She was posted to serve her NYSC in BAUCHI state and had finished from the orientation camp. She was certainly unhappy with the choice of Bauchi and wanted a different place for primary assignment, so came looking for me. I was more than happy to see her. I promised to help her serve in Abuja. She happily settled down in my house. We had a lot of time to chat about the old life and her life after I left Enugu. Her life was one of struggle after her father,s business went under. Attending University was no longer possible ;but help came her way.
The GENERAL OVERSEER of their church, who started dating her senior sister offered to send both of them to the university. While her two brothers dropped out of school after high school ,they had to go and learn trading. Things were still a struggle as they were mostly dependent on their mother,s petty trading to survive. Education wise, things were ok until the CHURCH FOUNDER with children her own age, started LUSTING after her too. When she refused to carve in and start dating him too, the man of GOD washed his hands off her education, Luckily she was half way through, things became real tough, but she was determined not to give up on her dreams of been a university graduate. [she read political science] The family really struggled to help her actualize her dreams. She told me about her shoe nicknamed ²ECHETEKA meaning tomorrow is too far by her school mates reason been that she wears the shoe day in day out, month in month out in school .
Been an attractive girl, she had her fair share of toasters in school, she took her time until in 300 level when she fell in love with a posh boy from ABBA another nearby village from her,s who was already in his final year in same school. Things were a little better for her when he graduated and started working as he helped out. She had never been comfortable about their two dialectical opposite background as he is the son of a well known rich transporter. The boy born into a VENERABLE and VENERATED family assured her, that he would certainly marry her. She then graduated from the university.
The way and manner she was introduced to his marriage to another girl, who came from the right similar background was mortifying. The boy,s mother had always been in the know about their relationship but had always been indifferent to her, which always cause a dampness to fall upon her spirit but the lover boy always irrevocably pledged his never ending love , assuring her that his family would never dictate to him who to marry, and would deal with his condescending mother with her spasmodic extravagance of a person used to large fortune when they are ready for their marriage after her NYSC: She visited the family house as usual, but saw that an important activity was planned for the house as there were canopies been set up, women running around cooking while the LADY OF THE MANOR the boy friend,s mother was fully in charge running the affair.She was just told that there would be a party the next day. She wondered as Chike never informed her of any party.When she asked of him as she didnt sight him at all, nobody was forth coming with an answer to his movement and his cell phone out of reach. She went home and was later informed about the next day traditional wedding between Chike and a girl from the right well connected family. who just returned from UK after university education by a friend of Chike over the cell phone. She never saw nor had any communication from him again.
After the sharing of this story, I was more than determined to help her. Am sure I would had bombed that traditional wedding; if I were in her shoes.Luckily I had a contact at NYSC office so her reposting to Abuja was just one hand for me, we went further to press buttons to post her to NNPC with the intention of further pushing them to retain her,after the service year.
She was full of joy and decided to travel down to Enugu to inform her parents, as she had two weeks off before starting work. As I intended traveling to Benin, so she joined myself and my son down to Benin, where we spent three wonderful nights in the poshest hotel in town. I thank GOD I gave her good, wonderful time before dropping her at her parent house still my grandfather,s house and traveled back to Abuja.
She was to come back to Abuja in a weeks time to party with us on my son,s forth coming birthday. She promised to come back two days before the party to help out. The day came and passed and she didnt show up.Then the dread call came from a friend of mine living at Enugu that NJIDE had passed on.She didnt have any information on what happened. I was filled with sudden exasperation of the elaborate futility of life. I traveled down to Enugu at once, I was shocked that she was already buried same day she passed on. The sorrow within the family was heart renting but I was really taken back at the suddenness of the intenment.
The story of what really took her life was related to me by the photographer who had a studio in from of their family home. According to him, Nijide had informed all of them about her intending trip back to Abuja the next day. She was up very early in the morning, washed her cloths for the trip next morning, cooked breakfast for the family and then left with her senior sister my old friend. Soon after, the sister rushed back alone without her and their mother joined her in rushing out again. By now people around knew that something was up. Soon after the mother rushed back and started screaming that NJIDE had passed on. People who saw her not quite an hour, leaving with her sister was bewildered beyond reasons.
Njide was pregnant and went with her sister to a nearby clinic for an abortion. The medical director of the clinic was not on seat. The NYSC doctor they meet convinced them he would do the abortion very well and at half the cost of what the hospital owner would had collected from them so they accepted. Soon after he started the evacuation, she started bleeding, became unconscious and then passed on. The father was called from the market where he runs a shop. He directed that she must be buried at once, so an ambulance was brought and a casket bought for her last journey to ENUGWU;;UKWU , that same day, without any funfair without any church service, without fair well from her friends, just thrown into the soil like an out caste. Like one who has committed an abormination . She was at the face of a steep precipice alone, the preposterousness of the matter without the second party, who have started his matrimonal life with ecstatic animation else where without a second thought to all his promises to her.
The fresh body, bleed all over the casket ,bleed all over the white shroud, bleed all over the ambulance.,The photographer and other people, that went with her on this last journey testified. SHE WAS COMMITTED TO MOTHER EARTH around 10 pm that night when they finished digging the grave, without prayers as if they family was furious with her for the shame and scandal brought upon the family. The rich boy from the correct background had planted his seed of destruction on the girl from the wrong background, before dumping her to marry the right girl, from another correct background.Her story was one of most poor girls who had been deceived by boys from so called upper crust families,these boys often turn their scrupulous eyes on these poor girls while in school, only to dump them later. These girls whose ROMANTICISM are always inconsistent with reality, are always left with burnt fingers and depressed for life. They need to let go of their INNOCENT ADROITNESS and face fact that inequality can never be wished away in the real world, unlike the movies.
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