Angela was 15 years old and in catholic boarding school, when she vanished into thin air. For nearly ten years, the family searched for her through radio, television ,the limit was when the very catholic couple had to use so called traditional means to look for their daughter after hitting brick wall, she was given up for dead.
Ten years after, she appeared with a story stranger than fiction. Her senior brother´s friend got her pregnant during the holiday, she knew this could kill her parents as her father was in the ELDERS meeting and her mother, leader of their parish CWO (CHRISTAN WOMEN ORGANIZATION). If its known she is pregnant, the parents would no longer receive holy communion. She then confided in a friend who took her to a woman who was to shelter her, until she had the baby then would return to school. She could pull that off as she lived in the boarding house,no body suspected she was pregnant. The women she met, arranged for some men who took her away by night to lagos. She had the baby which was taken away and sold, She was forced to sleep with some young men, gave birth to seven babies in captivity. There were many other Women held there. For next three years she couldn´t get pregnant so they threw out on the high way with a token for transport fare.
The second girl stella had similar catholic background of good catholic family, where pregnancy before marriage is forbidden, while abortion leads to hell fire. As a norm, she could not run to her parents, but to a friend who took her to a native DOCTOR: in a very horrible SLUM , in a very taky rundown second century hut, the native doctor should be at least 70 years,dirty as a pig,this is beyond picturesque exageration , I went hunting for him on hearing the story.
He told her that as a student, he would not charge her much but she would pay only a token amount of money, he then bought out some stuff in tablet form, he told her that the insemination of the tablets will induced an abortion, but the catch is that he must use his MAN HOOD to push the tablets into her body, once a day for five days. The poor girl; whom am sure had a perceptible chill at what the old fool wanted to do, had no choice than to allow him make love to her, under the pretence of helping her abort the pregnancy vis what her parents could do to her; on finding out about the pregnancy. After five promised days of an abortion and five days of rape, the abortion did not happen. She only came to her senses when the old wizard told her that the baby was very strong and not willing to abort, that they could extend the tablets to another one week, meaning another one week of sex with the old thing without teeth in his mouth, she stopped going there.She was introduced to a baby factory ,she went there had the baby, then went back to school without her parents any wiser.
Some catholic parents take their daughters to these baby factory, themselves to be hidden until the baby comes, it will be given up for adoption or whatever. Daughters will then go back to school as if nothing happened, church council will not know and holy communion partaking intact. Some catholic NUNS are also cashing into the poverty of some members to rob them of their babies. A poor widow´s teenage daughter became pregnant, the poor woman ran to the NUNS who run a catholic hospital for help. She made it clear to them, that her daughter want to keep the baby.These was accepted,She was kept in the hospital sh,had her baby, after three months, they now ask her to return to school, When the mother demanded for the baby, they gave her a hospital bill so outrageous that it was impossible for her to pay the poor woman was never informed she will pay hospital bill, she thought the NUNS were helping her as a widow, she went away weeping and the baby was given to the highest bidder,which was their game plan right from when they accepted her daughter in.
POVERTY plays an important role here,unwanted pregnancies are kick started by poverty. Girls from poor homes often fall victims to wolves out there. My cousin was sent to the Village to stay with her grandmother while attending the local high school. The Students were asked to pay 2oo NAIRA in the school for send off of an NYSC teacher, her grandmother could not provide her with the money, they sent away her from School, a village loafer gave her the money,got her pregnant, her parents , took her to a catholic ran baby factory where NUNS sell babies to the very rich. These smart NUNS run catholic high schools and are very vigilant in fishing out girls for pregnant test and then quietly arm twist the parents into sending their daughters to their hospitals,babies are had, then given up without formal adoption or documentations.The Church should look into their family planning policy and abortion too. The church should reform and move on with time. Am not advocating that abortion is right or not, but contraceptives should be encouraged, sex Education is very important, whether we want to know or not, most of our young people are sexually active. Lot of even married women, had lost their lives through illegal abortions, obtained from back street abortionists, so which one is better to use family planning method or visit illegal abortion clinics.
Friday 28 March 2014
Monday 17 March 2014
OLDER MEN AND MID LIFE CRISIS
There comes a time in life of middle aged people when they start thinking that time is running out, they start taking critical looks at the lives they are living. They belived that they could be happier if they had done things differently. These thoughts could trigger off mid life crisis.
Adifficult, a haunting horror of been left in the rot, stagnated by life and for life. Dr CALVIN COLARUSSO a clinical proffesor of psychiatry stated that a true mid life crisis usually involves changing your entire life in a hurry.
Some men go into depression, some leave their families cold turkey , blaming their stagnation in life on them. Some other men just make small changes, like caring more about their appearances. Others start dating younger women especially if they are also have sexually dysfunction problem, they look at their long time wives with the word SAMENESS ;SAMENESS stamped in their brains.
Most men start experiencing this crisis once they hit mid forties to early fifties. Some start questioning their entire life choices and then start wishing that time tide could change, so that they would had done most things differently. Then start having strong wishes to make changes before it gets too late. The urgency of shortness of life span is mostly felt now.
The subtle or drastic changes in their appearances like wrinkles etc are over noted, these could lead to more desperation. Psychologist LYNN MARGOLIES; started that men go through ²TEENAGE---LIKE REBELLION² at this point in their lives. She mentions some signs to show a man is going through mid life crisis 1DRINKING MORE 2 HAVING AN AFFAIR 3 LEAVING AN EXISTING FAMILY 4 FEELING YOUR LIFE NO LONGER FITS YOU:5 MORE CONCERNED ABOUT YOUR APPEARANCE
At this point older men start searching for more thrills and desire for excitement without caring for who is hurt, in the quest for proving their vitality, they start living recklessly. In our soc
Adifficult, a haunting horror of been left in the rot, stagnated by life and for life. Dr CALVIN COLARUSSO a clinical proffesor of psychiatry stated that a true mid life crisis usually involves changing your entire life in a hurry.
Some men go into depression, some leave their families cold turkey , blaming their stagnation in life on them. Some other men just make small changes, like caring more about their appearances. Others start dating younger women especially if they are also have sexually dysfunction problem, they look at their long time wives with the word SAMENESS ;SAMENESS stamped in their brains.
Most men start experiencing this crisis once they hit mid forties to early fifties. Some start questioning their entire life choices and then start wishing that time tide could change, so that they would had done most things differently. Then start having strong wishes to make changes before it gets too late. The urgency of shortness of life span is mostly felt now.
The subtle or drastic changes in their appearances like wrinkles etc are over noted, these could lead to more desperation. Psychologist LYNN MARGOLIES; started that men go through ²TEENAGE---LIKE REBELLION² at this point in their lives. She mentions some signs to show a man is going through mid life crisis 1DRINKING MORE 2 HAVING AN AFFAIR 3 LEAVING AN EXISTING FAMILY 4 FEELING YOUR LIFE NO LONGER FITS YOU:5 MORE CONCERNED ABOUT YOUR APPEARANCE
At this point older men start searching for more thrills and desire for excitement without caring for who is hurt, in the quest for proving their vitality, they start living recklessly. In our soc
Tuesday 4 March 2014
MEN MENOPAUSE ANDROGEN DEFICIENCY:
This is real, but most men would not want to talk about it. Just as women go into menopause when the estrogen level start dropping so do men when the problem of low testosterone start cropping up. Women start having hormonal issues like hot flushes, mood swings, aches and pains, low sex drives etc men also have similar health issues too.
Lot of Men become depressive without knowing that they need treatment. For this treatment, a blood test to check the level of testosterone is done. Treatment involves injection of testosterone twice a day for like 5 years. Dr Akinwale Awe stated that about 4 to 5 million men with ANDROGEN DEFICIENCY, only 5 percent are currently on treatment.
A Lot of studies are currently going on,to find out the long term effect of treatment with hormone just as in women, as it had been known that hormone replacement therapy increases the incident of breast cancer ,so also a man under treatment need to carry out prostate cancer test every 6 months by doing PSA (Prostate specific antigen) The benefit of replacement therapy is that the libido is improved, increased in bone density, muscle mass and strength , reduced mood swings.
Men handles mid life crisis in a different way from women, they often handles it with a lot misgivings, most are not chivalrously ready to concede most of his pleasures, with deminshing libidos they start straying from home, blaming their aging wives wrinkling faces and sagging bodies for their problems .They start looking for love outside their marriage believing that younger women would boost their libido.
While dealing with menopause some Men resort to sex stimulant, no wonder VIAGRA is multi billion dollar business and other herbal preparations which men take , without checking with a doctor first. Most of these sex stimulant are dangerous to health, and should not be taken without doctor,s check in, these drugs could increase blood pressure, stroke etc.
Men should not pay too much attention to their love life at this age, women generally handles this area of their lives better,than men. Women at this stage pay attention to their kids, family and social respönsibility ,recreation etc. Life is all about conversation and relationship, women have got less to prove because they have a better sense of priority, they have multiple facets to their life without wasting time on fading sexual impulses. Afterall at the end of life, what we are venerated for would be compassion, good work.
Lot of Men become depressive without knowing that they need treatment. For this treatment, a blood test to check the level of testosterone is done. Treatment involves injection of testosterone twice a day for like 5 years. Dr Akinwale Awe stated that about 4 to 5 million men with ANDROGEN DEFICIENCY, only 5 percent are currently on treatment.
A Lot of studies are currently going on,to find out the long term effect of treatment with hormone just as in women, as it had been known that hormone replacement therapy increases the incident of breast cancer ,so also a man under treatment need to carry out prostate cancer test every 6 months by doing PSA (Prostate specific antigen) The benefit of replacement therapy is that the libido is improved, increased in bone density, muscle mass and strength , reduced mood swings.
Men handles mid life crisis in a different way from women, they often handles it with a lot misgivings, most are not chivalrously ready to concede most of his pleasures, with deminshing libidos they start straying from home, blaming their aging wives wrinkling faces and sagging bodies for their problems .They start looking for love outside their marriage believing that younger women would boost their libido.
While dealing with menopause some Men resort to sex stimulant, no wonder VIAGRA is multi billion dollar business and other herbal preparations which men take , without checking with a doctor first. Most of these sex stimulant are dangerous to health, and should not be taken without doctor,s check in, these drugs could increase blood pressure, stroke etc.
Men should not pay too much attention to their love life at this age, women generally handles this area of their lives better,than men. Women at this stage pay attention to their kids, family and social respönsibility ,recreation etc. Life is all about conversation and relationship, women have got less to prove because they have a better sense of priority, they have multiple facets to their life without wasting time on fading sexual impulses. Afterall at the end of life, what we are venerated for would be compassion, good work.
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